We’ve probably all worked for a leader who never made mistakes—or rather, one who wouldn’t admit to his or her own mistakes. But mistakes are a part of learning. I love to hear about the accomplishments of a successful leader, but sometimes I learn best when humble leaders are willing to share what they learned when they messed up. Here are a few notable mistakes I have under my belt…
Read MoreWe live in an era of rapid metamorphosis where the only constant seems to be change itself. Just in the past five years we've lived through a global pandemic that has overhauled the way we live, work and interact with one another; we've navigated social movements such as #MeToo and Black Lives Matter that have awakened a desire in many for justice, equality and change; we've seen our younger generation pick up their bullhorns as it relates to climate change due to extreme weather events; and we've seen technological leaps forward from the advent of 5G to the rise of artificial intelligence.
Read MoreOne of the habits of a healthy leader is they seek first to understand. When someone disagrees with them, they strive to see the situation through the other person's eyes. When tension or frustration is rising, they drop back to see what they are missing. "What is the context or lived experience of the other individal that I need to understand?"
Read MoreLast year I decided to put together a gathering that I would want to attend. It's not a conference. Rather, think “TED Talk meets Roundtable." No endless talking heads or “know-it-all” experts in the room. Intentionally limited to a maximum of 40 leaders. More than that and it starts to feel like an event rather than an intimate gathering where everyone can hear and be heard. The room is safe and the conversations are confidential.
Read MoreI joined the team at Willow Creek in early 2020, and later that year three employees passed their 40-year anniversary on staff. Forty freaking years! And guess what we did to celebrate? Nothing. We didn't even mention it in a staff meeting.
There were a number of reasons for this -- Covid definitely being a factor. But as I asked around, our church never had a history of honoring longevity. The average employee tenure in America is 4.3 years, and yet we had scores of staff members who had been with us through the highs and the lows for decades. As we went to work on improving our organizational health and staff culture, one of the most important things we did was to begin to intentionally say thanks to those who chose to stay on the team year-after-year.
Read MoreBy adding an unnecessary descriptor (black, hispanic, young, old, female) in a compliment, you can unintentionally diminish the person you are trying to build up. The more adjectives you use in a compliment, especially those that focus on their demographic characteristics, the less impact your words will have.
Read MoreYou won't be at your job forever. I don't care if you are the founder or you just started last week--we all eventually leave our positions and our organizations. You might leave because of retirement, termination, the organization closes, you get a job offer you can't refuse, the proverbial bus finally hits you, or you just get fed up and resign. However it happens, everyone leaves eventually.
Read MoreI’ve had the opportunity to work with hundreds of organizations, and you can always tell when a staff is led by a diminisher. No one speaks up in meetings. Ideas get batted down by the “leader,” so people just learn to stay silent. Why? It’s not worth it. The diminisher is going to do whatever they want regardless of the discussion.
Read MoreHere are the facts: Most churches wait way too long to begin having this conversation. Many churches face a leadership transition sooner than they planned (death, debilitating health issues, resignation, scandal). And most churches mess up the succession process, and it takes years to recover.
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